Last week RightWingNews.com named me one of the top 20 Hottest Conservative Women in New Media. I just barely squeaked in at #20 behind such new media powerhouses as Michelle Malkin, Katie Pavlich and Dana Loesch. Once the list started making the rounds I began to receive many messages of congratulations. “You definitely deserve to be on that list!”, “I’d rate you higher than #20!”, “You are totally a hottie!” began flooding my social media accounts. I was sure to thank everyone, but as I sent my messages of appreciation I found myself wondering, “Should I really feel honored to be declared a ‘hottie’? Is it right to be accepting praise from others for my looks?” Many people have commented to me (and in the comments section at RWN) over the last few days that we women should be ashamed and embarrassed to be on such a list. I asked John Hawkins, Editor-in-Chief at Right Wing News about the list, criteria and if there was more to the judging than just looks. Says Hawkins, “The 20 hottest conservative women in the new media is a straight up beauty contest — and I don’t see a need to make it into more than that. In my book, there’s never been anything wrong with respectfully telling a pretty woman that she’s pretty. Other than a handful of exceptions I’ve run across, conservative women seem to see it that way, too. I instant message, email, and/or talk in person with 16 of the 20 women who made the list this year. If they were getting mad at me about the list, what do you think the chances are I’d be doing it every year? Pretty small. But in my experience, not only are the women on the list not offended by it, they love making it. After all, it’s a tremendous compliment, it drives a few thousand hits to their websites, and some of the women have even gotten newspaper articles out of it.”
So, am I offended at being “objectified” and praised for my looks instead of my brains?
My answer: NO! Hawkins is right. There is no such thing as bad publicity and being associated in any way with the quality of women bloggers on that list could never hurt. Besides that, I frankly don’t find it offensive to be labeled “hot”. I grew up as an ugly duckling. I was 19 years old before I was asked out on my first date. As I’ve aged I’ve become more in tune with my looks and body and have learned how to polish my looks; but as a girl and even a young woman I definitely experienced a long, awkward stage. I did not feel pretty or desired. I often wished to know what it would feel like to be one of the “pretty girls”. It sounds shallow perhaps, but isn’t that just a part of growing up as a girl? We all want to be considered desirable in some way or another. It wasn’t until I married that I really became more secure in my womanhood, with my looks being a big part of that. So being named on some “Hottest” list isn’t a slam to me. It is an honor of sorts, a compliment most definitely. I’m a chick! I like to be told I’m pretty. It doesn’t take away anything from what I have to offer in the way of intelligence. Despite what the feminazi crowd would works hard to convey, smart and pretty are not mutually exclusive. Call me pretty. I still know I’m smart; it’s not like that changes! And labeling me “hot” is not objectifying me; it’s recognizing a quality, period. Plus, it’s just fun. Sure, RWN could have released a “20 SMARTEST Conservative Women” list, (and still might) but are you really going to click on that? Which sounds more entertaining to you…smartest or hottest? By the way, I wasn’t on the list last year. Does it hurt my feelings that I wasn’t considered hot enough in 2011 to make it? Heck, no. Here’s the thing: I’m still me whether I’m on anyone’s list or not. #20 or #1, it does not change who I am, what I fight for, who loves me and who doesn’t. It’s a list. A list of cute chicks who are also wicked smart. Who wouldn’t want to be on that list?
I like being thought of smart. I also like being thought of as pretty. What, I should want to be thought of as ugly? I like it when men hold doors for me and stand up when I leave the table. I like it when a man let’s me go in front of him in line or get off the elevator first. It’s not oppressive. It’s pleasant. Some of these angry women on the left seem to want to take all the pleasure out of life for the rest of us. That’s the REAL war on women. And I reject it, wholly.
My name is Kira Davis. I’m one of Right Wing News’ top 20 Hottest Conservative Women in New Media. I’m not offended by that. I’m tickled by it. So sue me.